I am 8 1/2 months pregnant, which has lent itself to a very interesting week. 
I am never one who blames my actions on my moods, but this week the stress finally got to me. My husband is not eternally patient, nor am I for that matter. I also like to keep a running to-do list for before the baby comes, and I just got out of hand this week.
What made it more difficult was that I started reading John M Gottmans book, The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work. Not only am I reading it, but I am tracking any time I exhibit one of the 4 behaviors he refers to as " The Four Horseman." 
Which include:
1. Criticism 
2. Contempt
3.defensiveness 
4. Stonewalling. 

And boy do I criticize a lot. I like to think this is an anomaly, due to the ever looming deadline, that could change at any moment. But I know better. It is so much easier to criticize then to actually speak kindly to our spouses. Why is that?
My husband is my best friend, by a long shot. He is the only person I really care to talk to on a daily basis, and I look forward to any time we can spend together. Which is why I took a 2 hour car trip with him, even though I became so swollen he referred to me as a goblin.
I asked him, he says I am his best friend as well, and pointed out that if we aren't working we are most likely together, if not doing the same activity we at least try to be in the same room so we can talk. 
I love this relationship, and I didn't want to be the one to constantly criticizing someone who does amazing things for myself and our kids. I told him of the tracking sheet and what I hoped to accomplish, and it made all the difference. He was able to steer me towards solutions, and keep me on track. 
I have no problems being mushy, I love my husband. I am so grateful that he is willing to help me better myself, and work on himself in the process. It is so much easier to nurture a relationship if both people are totally committed and involved.