Today was our 4 year anniversary. I have looked
back on all that we have accomplished in such a short amount of time, and my
heart is so full. We have a loving and excitable toddler and another child on
the way. You are working hard to start your business, and take time every day
to take care of us. The road getting here was not easy by any means. While
these stats look good I also see the 3 surgeries in one year, the lost income,
the lost jobs, the struggles, and late nights. They are all worth it in the end.
I remember when we first started talking about
marriage we were fine with waiting until we both finished school and had
'established' ourselves. Like we knew that meant. I remember been so proud of
that grown up decision we had made, and then we prayed about it.
I cannot remember where we found the article,
for all my googling skills it seems to not exist any longer, but Gordon B.
Hinkley talks a lot about marriage, and he said something that was similar.
"Don’t rush it unduly and don’t delay it unduly.”
We had already decided to be married, and that
was safe, so we wanted to delay, which was safer. So many people in this world
believe that you need to have it all, the house, the car, and career before you
can have the wife and family. Only then will you have a successful marriage. This
is the furthest thing from the truth.
I have never had more support in the things I want to accomplish then from my husband. He more than anyone else wants to see me succeed and push myself to be a better person, and I want the same for him.
I have never had more support in the things I want to accomplish then from my husband. He more than anyone else wants to see me succeed and push myself to be a better person, and I want the same for him.
President Wilford Woodruff said it best
“When
the daughters of Zion are asked by the young men to join with them in marriage,
instead of asking—‘Has this man a fine brick house, a span of fine horses and a
fine carriage?’ they should ask—‘Is he a man of God? Has he the Spirit of God
with him? Is he a Latter-day Saint? Does he pray? Has he got the Spirit upon
him to qualify him to build up the kingdom?’ If he has that, never mind the
carriage and brick house, take hold and unite yourselves together according to
the law of God” (in Discourses of Wilford Woodruff, 271).
The only thing that I have found that makes a
truly successful marriage is the inclusion of God. When we started dating I
followed the promptings of the spirit, while we dated we prayed and study
scriptures together. I know this does not seem ‘comfortable’ in the modern
sense, but truly why are you dating if not to find a companion?
I know that if we include God in our relationships
we can avoid many of the pitfalls of modern marriage. There are no starter
marriages, or marriages of convenience, only eternal partners.
This has given us the sweetest beginning of all, and will lead to the happiest of ends.